Leadership is about influence. Everyone influences someone. Therefore, in a sense, everyone is a leader. Sociologists tell us that even the most introverted individual will influence 10,000 other people during his or her lifetime.
As I look back on my life, I have been influenced by so many people — my parents, teachers, friends and family. Just as I have been influenced by others, inevitably what I do and say will influence others for good or ill.
As the African proverb puts it, ‘If you think you’re too small to make a difference, you haven’t spent the night with a mosquito.’ The mosquito makes a difference in an annoying way, but the principle is the same. One person can stop a great injustice. One person can be a voice for truth. One person’s kindness can save a life. Each person matters.
History is in many ways a story of influence. In reality we all influence one another in all sorts of ways — from what to have for lunch and what films to watch, to more important matters of truth and ethics.
What we do as individuals, as a community or a nation affects others. How do you use that influence for good? How do you maximize your influence?
David Starr Gordon- the world stands aside to let anyone pass who knows where he is going”
Influence is passionate-
* Purpose is the foundation of passion
“Do you know what you are to be doing?”
Potential another driving force of passion- “ when the potential is gone the passion is gone”
- Your calling leads to passion
3 keys to Passion:
* 1. Passion is personal
* 2. Passion is progressive
* 3. Passion is contagious
Influence is big thinking
* 1. See the potential others do not see
* 2. Say the positive words others do not say
* 3. Show personal interest others do not show
* 4. Share the possibilities others do not share
Use your powers to influence for good, it’s the noble thing to do when potential is on the line.
A young man went to the doctor complaining of headaches and migraines. While explaining the symptoms he is stating the he doesn’t do things like other people do, like alcohol, drugs, smoking , or staying out late. The doctor responds with a hmm! The doctor asks does it hurt here, here, and here as he presses on his head. The young man is relieved that the doctor will give him the cure. The doctor responds, “I know what the problem is as I touch your head?” “What is it?”, asks the young man. “Your Halo is too tight!”
People are constantly working and striving to be perfect. What does it look like? It looks like sitting in a business meeting and not wanting to be called out for not having it all together, it’s as a man or husband trying to guide and lead his family and not wanting them to see that he doesn’t know it all. It looks like a man in a relationship with a woman and not letting her know you have chinks in your armor. However the picture of perfection is for you, its all a LIE!
4 Key areas that will allow you and I to put a Bruce Lee chop to the perfection lie-
1. Admit your blind spots/faults
This is not merely sharing your point of weakness, but its recognizing that your blinds posts are just that blinds posts and the enlist the help of others to grow.
2. Ask for Help/Advice
The greatest asset to growth is not to have to be everything to everybody, being comfortable with “I don’t know” is very freeing, but knowing who to ask is even more empowering.
3. Worry less about what others think
Most people are more concerned about themselves that what you mean to them, correcting the story you tell yourself about what others think and focus more on what you say and think about yourself will prove to be amazing.
4. Be open to learning from others
See others greater than yourself. L.I.F.E. (Learning Is For Ever) having an attitude to grow and learn will set you free from the trap of perfection. I constantly learn things from my 10 year old son.
Listen, how can an imperfect being ever accomplish a perfect life? Answer, WE cannot perform perfection, it’s a word we made up that has tripped up humanity for so many years.
Have a great week!
I learned a valuable lesson about life and I can also apply this word narrow to many areas of living successfully, I'll let your mind and heart determine your own story. The story i'll share is the one that comes from when I made my first six figure income, It was the time not long ago when so much had my attention, sports, TV, the latest news, social networking sites, other unhealthy devices, etc. and making less than 35K/year, now I believe some of these things have there place. I just didn't understand that this broad living this selfish , fearful living was making me waste all my efforts on too many things that ultimately did not produce any more fruit in my life.
In comes a mentor into my life at the time and there were many things I learned from him. This one thing that I share today, was that I was to "narrow" my living, get super focused on a dream and a goal that would have to include more than just me. A dream or purpose that consumed me just like those other things did. I had to have discipline , put myself last, constantly and daily remind myself of the greatness inside of me, and take many steps of faith. This path proved to be very difficult for the first year, very difficult, I am still growing. I had to rewire my thinking with the books I read, the people I listened to, and the association I had.
I love this quote that Matthew the disciple of Jesus wrote of Jesus, "Go through the narrow gate..the gate to life is very narrow..this road is hard to follow, few will find it." Broad is easy, most people will live their lives that way. I believe because you are reading this you have been called to follow the narrow way, success in all areas of life and an example to many.
How To Stick with Good And Healthy Habits
Do you really want to stick to a good healthy habit? Well you gotta listen to this because this has been proven in my life so many years that when I feel like I get off track, I just revert right back to it and make it as plain as possible.
The most recent habit that I am really proud of, is the one that I chose to make my health a priority. And making my health a priority there were a lot of things that I needed to change, well I wasn’t so off from my habits but there were some questionable habits in there. What am I saying, my habits were terrible!
So, the first thing was to find a way to start diluting the negative talk in my head. I needed to change my input quick and in a hurry. What I did was I reached out to a nutrition and fitness coach by the name of Jeffrey at Revolution fitness (Facebook, Instagram). What Jeffrey began to do was start to ask me really good questions, questions that I never really took the time to think about or maybe not even really wanted to answer.
What these questions the words made me to start thinking more concretely about my health and seriously why wasn’t I making myself a priority. Did I really want to live a long healthy life, do I really want to suffer from chronic pains as I got older, do I really want to be around for my grandchildren? These are questions and the input that I needed to start me on my journey and really come to an honest and open dialogue with myself and my wife.
These thoughts and answers to the questions that I had in my head and heart let me take action immediately. I began to journal and write down my goals every day and speak them out loud, I spoke to myself constantly about how proud I was even for the little that I did, or the major things I would do. I thought and spoke of this as a long-term project. Meaning years in the making (I’m in year two) I began to just get up and move.
I started off with walking them a fitness plan was delivered to me from my fitness coach to follow and a meal regiment. I was determined to just do and at one day at a time making each day a resolution to conquer my fears and thoughts and make myself a priority.
To keep myself accountable I would reach out to my coach once a week give him updates through myfitness pal tracking (an app) my macros and eating. Also, I would let him know my weight every week and I posted socially on Snapchat my first year each day whether I felt like it or not ( so others would see it)
To give you a formula of what I used here it is below:
Having and adopting a good and healthy habit lifestyle will lead you to more peace, more joy, more clarity, and more power in the moment.
Thank you for allowing me to encourage you today on your path and journey and helping you to maximize any given moment in your life for success.
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Recently I had got an email from someone and initially the first line in the email said, it had my name and then it sounded more Condescending than anything really. I asked myslelf are you really reading the whole email correctly, Milton.
Immediately my mind went to a negative place. And I tried to calm down for a few minutes, because I initially I was aware of the fact that my blood pressure was rising and I was going to a place I really didn’t want to go mentally, so then I took my time and read the email fully once again.
Now I wonder how many of you have ever been in that place before where you have read something or you saw something and initially in your mental perspective went to that of a negative place or negative intent? I know I’m not the only one here. So let’s be honest with one another that it’s really really a challenge to stay positively engaged in how you approach situations. I come across my life in different moments, different opportunities, different people different conversations it’s amazing how I approach the thing that makes it what the thing is.
How about you? Now it’s really not your fault; as a kid you presume positively intently but everything came crashing down. As a child, You were happy you were excepting, loving and didn’t hold grudges. You didn’t have man hurtful things, you didn’t have people let you down so you’re just a happy person but what I want to challenge is that over the course of time as you became an adult, you became older your spirit has shifted to such a way that immediately because of experiences you have had, immediately you presume negative instead of positive.
If there’s anything I can do and share with you today is that it’s practice, it’s a work in progress to presume positive intent. How you approach things may very well be how things end up as a result. So, presume positively have caution when needed because that’s part of life to have caution but if you presume positive intent more than any approach this will be beneficial. The right mindset and the right eye will serve you with less stress and give you a better to best outcome.
So maximizers, if your approach is right then your outcome will be right. Thanks for your attention-Coach Milton
Have you ever been so out of it that you forget how to do the thing you had been doing? Your routine that you had the day that you got things going and you started the new year were working out and then maybe take a little trip or vacation, something happens in the family or any distraction or you know you’re trying to do something new you started a habit you went 21 days and then just life happens. Your boss wants a little bit more, your family demands little bit more, your life demands a little bit more these thigns sidetracks just a little bit but you haven’t forgotten about your decision to do something better with yourself, your life or something in the area of your life your family. Like me have ever been there?
It wasn’t too long ago I would allow myself to give up, run away or hide from my success. Now I didn’t realize I was actually doing that till after some reflection and counseling.
See I had overcome some obstacles in being successful on the football field and graduating from college, but for some reason that hard work and conquering challenges didnt easily translate to the business or professional world.
Call it I was out of my element, call it I was running from confrontation, call it I was afraid of the hard work. It was a mixture of a few things. The one thing I recall from those experiences, was that I had gotten used to being celebrated in other arenas. I had to come to the grip that an injury and sickness kept me from moving on to the pro level. So I was mourning and had to adjust.
The hardest realization is that I had to look in the mirror and be totally honest with the fact that I was sabotaging my own success. And listen I wanted to be successful I wanted to be totally successful but I was holding myself back and at this point it really really was ticking me off.
If I can say one thing today to encourage you to give you the freedom to let go of the past and anything else that’s sabotaging your success please listen to me. I want to see you be the greatest person that you could possibly be while alive on this earth, be better every single day.
Thanks for listening- Coach Milton
It was a time when I didn’t know that I could do it, I mean really do it. It clicked in my head and heart when I realized I had a real shot to play in the NFL. I was a little too husky still, and still a lot out of shape. I was sitting there looking at the TV and I felt something speak to me , “go for it!” A whisper, an inspiration , that still small voice that at that moment gave me the courage and erased all my doubts and fears about , “What if’s” or “what about” or “can I really.” All it took was that one moment and everything changed. It literally went from my head to my heart.
I wish that I could tell you that from that point on everything worked out smoothly. HaHa I’d be lying and also shortcutting your progress and journey. It was a journey full of pain, heart break, battling with consistent doubt, some negative folks, and the desire to want to quit at times.
Here is where I encourage you, the one thing that kept me on task and on purpose was , are you ready for it? “It was consistent action.” Yep, you heard me right , it was my consistent action. If I wasn’t working on my stamina or strength, I was watching film, or reading magazines, news paper articles in the sports section or taking about it with family and friends. The dream of playing in the NFL consumed me.
So, how do you live a purposeful life? You take that passion you have built up inside of you and you take daily action, real action! You won’t get there over night and I hope you don’t think it will happen overnight. The biggest reason I hope it doesn’t happen over night is that the journey has so many obstacles and challenges and tools for you to develop and grow and the process of growth will benefit you in so many areas of life. Believe Me.
Get after your passions daily- Coach Milton
One of my main topics is speaking about Moments, moments will come into your life fast and furiously. Moments show up in the form of your child looking for attention. If can come in the form of a spouse needing some up lifting. It can come in the form of a crucial conversation in business or work or at home. However the moment comes and its not up to us to decide what kind of moment we can call upon. It is up to us to maximize that moment when it comes.
I was confronted by a client recently about the service that we provided and it wasn’t good. But it was a learning point. The learning point was for me and my team and its up to us to take it and grow. I wanted to give you three reminders of why the high ground is so important when engaging with others in relationship.
Take the High Road
Every relationship needs a bridge for both parties to cross, and if you really care about people, leave that bridge in tact. At times you or the other person will walk away or make the effort to meet you on the other-side. After all its relationships that stand forever.
Reactive or proactive, which are you? When its your relationships which do you lean to and are you aware of the consequences of both. It can come with time and experience, but I’d rather you have those experiences and grow from them than to not and have no hope for a better future for yourself and others.
Hope this helps you today Maximizer, now go a be the person that takes the high road.
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.