Pulling up in a fast food drive thru- (don’t hate me those that can’t stand it, bear with me). The last time I went through a drive thru I was asked after ordering a sandwich if I wanted to make that a value meal? I quickly said no, because all I wanted was a sandwich and a water (counting calories here). But the question stuck with me for a bit, because I have changed my outlook on food and working to become more healthy fit and extend my quality of life. So to me at this point in life this value meal is not value, because of what happens in my body after consuming a large fry and a large drink with the sandwich. I am not condemning , just pointing out my life.
So, the value add concept , what does it come down to in our personal lives and how do we bring it, give it, handle it. This word “Value” will be an ever increasing topic but allow me to share some points on how to right now add the value we seek.
Be Responsive In Your Work-
1. Be generous with your communication with your relationships. This shows credibility
2. Be responsible with your yourself, your mission in life and most importantly ask good questions to give yourself the ability to respond intelligently.
Offer A World Class Experience-
1. Listen to those in your relationships
2. Ask questions beyond task orientation
3. Make being with you, like no other experience
Under Promise And Over Deliver-
1. Deliver according to expectations set/Execute
2. Be the go to for what you know best.
3. Be consistent with everyone in relation to you, or no matter how much others can give you.
Build An Invaluable Relationship –
1. People do business and build long term relationships with those they know, like or trust.
2. Relationship will most likely trump trials and troubles, keep the relationship tight.
3. Go deeper with your relationship. Ask more insightful questions of others.
Be Growth Oriented-
1. Learn your skills and talents and master your craft. Applied Knowledge is power.
2. Teach others what you know
Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.- Albert Einstein
Hope this blesses you today-Coach Milton
While having a conversation with my wife, my son runs into the room to share some big news he heard, he goes dad I have a quote for you, “if there is no tomorrow, you must live extra big today!” (In other words live the maximized life) I say, wow that’s profound son, where did you hear that from, response the Great King Julian. After a second to ponder who this King Julian was , I ask “who is that?” From Madagascar!! After laughter and making a shorter story we talked about that quote and some good points came out of it.
Belief of the Maximized Life
Key Statement: Maximizers are those who possess the strength of character that enables them to keep believing , keep planning, keep thinking, keep meditating, and keep working to experience their full potential in the face of less-than-optimal conditions.
If you agree with this statement then you can call yourself a Maximizer. Now, Ill share some benefits and blessings of living the maximized life.
Blessings of the Maximizer
Key Statement: Maximizers , like all people , eventually reach a “breaking point , “ but instead of breaking down they break through, which is a matter of choice.
It truly is a blessing to have the fortitude to live with courage a maximized life and become a Maximizer.
Benefits of Maximized Living:
More Peace- If tomorrow doesn’t exist breathe deep and take the pressure off.
More Joy – Your interaction with others are represented by happiness and joy.
More Confidence- Stress of tomorrow spreads your confidence in today thin, focus on the tasks and interactions of the day.
Key areas to Maximize
Relationships- Maximize the use and time of your relationships, who would you forgive, confront or encourage today?
Goals - are there any today you can attain or scratch off your list and would you envision a bigger tomorrow if granted one?
Commitments – The time is now to be a person of your word, let your yes be yes and your no be no. Be loyal to your cause and loyal to those involved in it with you.
“If there is no tomorrow, you must live extra big and maximize your life today!”- King Julian + Milton Herring
Leadership is about influence. Everyone influences someone. Therefore, in a sense, everyone is a leader. Sociologists tell us that even the most introverted individual will influence 10,000 other people during his or her lifetime.
As I look back on my life, I have been influenced by so many people — my parents, teachers, friends and family. Just as I have been influenced by others, inevitably what I do and say will influence others for good or ill.
As the African proverb puts it, ‘If you think you’re too small to make a difference, you haven’t spent the night with a mosquito.’ The mosquito makes a difference in an annoying way, but the principle is the same. One person can stop a great injustice. One person can be a voice for truth. One person’s kindness can save a life. Each person matters.
History is in many ways a story of influence. In reality we all influence one another in all sorts of ways — from what to have for lunch and what films to watch, to more important matters of truth and ethics.
What we do as individuals, as a community or a nation affects others. How do you use that influence for good? How do you maximize your influence?
David Starr Gordon- the world stands aside to let anyone pass who knows where he is going”
Influence is passionate-
* Purpose is the foundation of passion
“Do you know what you are to be doing?”
Potential another driving force of passion- “ when the potential is gone the passion is gone”
- Your calling leads to passion
3 keys to Passion:
* 1. Passion is personal
* 2. Passion is progressive
* 3. Passion is contagious
Influence is big thinking
* 1. See the potential others do not see
* 2. Say the positive words others do not say
* 3. Show personal interest others do not show
* 4. Share the possibilities others do not share
Use your powers to influence for good, it’s the noble thing to do when potential is on the line.
A young man went to the doctor complaining of headaches and migraines. While explaining the symptoms he is stating the he doesn’t do things like other people do, like alcohol, drugs, smoking , or staying out late. The doctor responds with a hmm! The doctor asks does it hurt here, here, and here as he presses on his head. The young man is relieved that the doctor will give him the cure. The doctor responds, “I know what the problem is as I touch your head?” “What is it?”, asks the young man. “Your Halo is too tight!”
People are constantly working and striving to be perfect. What does it look like? It looks like sitting in a business meeting and not wanting to be called out for not having it all together, it’s as a man or husband trying to guide and lead his family and not wanting them to see that he doesn’t know it all. It looks like a man in a relationship with a woman and not letting her know you have chinks in your armor. However the picture of perfection is for you, its all a LIE!
4 Key areas that will allow you and I to put a Bruce Lee chop to the perfection lie-
1. Admit your blind spots/faults
This is not merely sharing your point of weakness, but its recognizing that your blinds posts are just that blinds posts and the enlist the help of others to grow.
2. Ask for Help/Advice
The greatest asset to growth is not to have to be everything to everybody, being comfortable with “I don’t know” is very freeing, but knowing who to ask is even more empowering.
3. Worry less about what others think
Most people are more concerned about themselves that what you mean to them, correcting the story you tell yourself about what others think and focus more on what you say and think about yourself will prove to be amazing.
4. Be open to learning from others
See others greater than yourself. L.I.F.E. (Learning Is For Ever) having an attitude to grow and learn will set you free from the trap of perfection. I constantly learn things from my 10 year old son.
Listen, how can an imperfect being ever accomplish a perfect life? Answer, WE cannot perform perfection, it’s a word we made up that has tripped up humanity for so many years.
Have a great week!
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.