I don’t believe I need to set this up fo you, the reason you clicked to read this is because you struggle or want clarity, or want confirmation to what your voice is and using it to bring fulfillment and joy to your life and others. So lets jump right in and take this session seriously.
Here are a few questions that may help uncover clues to your voice. Set aside some time with a notebook or journal to reflect on each:
1. What angers you? Every super hero needs a bad guy. Without one, the super hero has nothing to fight against. Are there specific things that evoke a compassionate anger in you? (Key point of differentiation: this is not about road rage, poor service, or leaving the seat up. We’re talking about the systemic things that evoke a desire to intervene in a situation as an act of compassion, heroism or to rectify a great wrong.)
2. What makes you cry? Think about the last several instances that caused you to cry. Movies are fair game too. I’ve noticed that I almost always tear up while watching stories of underdogs who overcome incredible odds. Children that are abused and not encouraged. And, those that are living below their full potential. This is a clue to me that my greatest work is still ahead of me.
3. What have you mastered? Are there tasks, skills, or opportunities that you have simply mastered and can do without thinking? These low-friction activities might give you a clue to ways you can continue pursuing your voice. We learn through action, observation, then correction. Start with what you do well, and work your way toward your goal.
4. What gives you hope? What do you look forward to? What great vision do you have for your future and the future of others? Hope is a powerful motivator, and can give you a clue to the ways in which you may be able to compel others to act.
5. As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? We often forget the earliest clues to our voice as we are burdened with the expectations of peers, teachers, parents, and eventually the marketplace. But those early days of wonder – the vast expanses of horizon that hinted at limitless possibility – can give us insight into the deeper seeds of fascination that still reside within us. So…what did/do you want to be when you grow up?
6. If you had all the time and money in the world, what would you do? It astounds me how few people have asked themselves this question, and it astounds me more how few people can arrive at an answer when they do. We believe that a lack of resources is the obstacle to our happiness and fulfillment, but for many of us the limitation has nothing to do with a lack of money or time. The limitation is our fear of falling short of our own self-perception. We point fingers at others because we can’t reconcile our own fear of engagement. We don’t think about limitless possibility because we are afraid of what would happen if we were to get it.
7. What would blow your mind? List out every thing that would thrill you if it were to happen, including relational things, business things, travel, ambitions, hopes, etc. It’s a great way to identify patterns in your motivation.
8. What change would you like to see in the world? If you could identify a single delta – a big change that you would like to see before you die – what would it be? What would be different about the world because you lived? Don’t be afraid to think big, but be specific. You may not be the one to lead this change, but you may be able to play a significant role in it. (By the way…think relationships here too. The biggest change you and I have the capacity to make is in the lives of others.)
9. If you had one day left, how would you spend it? If you knew that you would pass away at the stroke of midnight how would you spend your last day on earth? What questions would you ask? Who would you spend time with? What work would you do? Again, this is an interesting way to begin identifying patterns within your passions, skills, and experiences.
Let me encourage you to take the time to find your voice, I want to see you fully live!
During any football game in which I specialized in for quite sometime, I’ve seen many players that carry the football or when chasing down a play or blocking for the next touchdown, get thrown off. I mean you are focused on a course of action, your purpose, your calling and “wham” someone knocks you off balance or throws you off course.
I sense that this happens to many people just like you when just living life, it could be your purpose, it could be your marriage, your children, your health, your finances, you chose the topic. But, what do you do? Many people, not talking about you?! Some of them give up, some play the blame game, others throw in the towel, or some find the will to fight past the obstacle and refocus towards a greater goal.
One thing I can share with you, is that if you get thrown off course and I have experienced this times in my life don’t get discouraged. I believe the being thrown off course can be a positive if you see it that way. Think about this when you are thrown off course you have a chance to look round at what happened , it allows you to asses the situation and make a better choice. But here is the kicker, you can not wait or wallow in your current state often. Quickly ask the question , “what do I need to learn and where do I go from here?” Good questions call upon good responses.
Allow me to encourage you and be resilient in your dealings , especially when things seem rosy and now you feel there is a strong smell of ashes. Be the Phoenix and rise out of the ashes to greatness. Follow these guidelines to getting back on track.
5 Ways to get back on track after you are thrown off:
1. Don’t turn the stumble into a moral issue.You’re not a bad person or destined to lack purpose just because you slipped up. Think of the setback as a way to develop coping skills in life. You will have mishaps , I believe this is part of life.
2. Learn from your experience.If you don’t recognize what led you to fall off, you’ll probably react the same way the next time the situation arises. Write down a list of the situations that trigger you to be distracted, and plan an alternative for each. For example, if weekends are your downfall, do something first thing in the morning or day to keep your purpose in check.
3. Don’t try to make up for the slip with a punishing regime.You may feel good in the short term, but you’re almost sure to burn out and go back to an old pattern. This will only set up an unhealthy pattern of an uncontrollable cycle, and create anxiety or depression about your purpose or calling in life.
4. Look at the big picture.Realize that life is a marathon and small gains are made over time, but it doesn’t matter what the exact time period is. So consider your actions in a a week or a month at a time instead of every day. Chances are you’ll have good days and bad days.
5. Renew your resolution.Getting thrown off is a signal that your resolve has veered off track. So sit down and take stock: When you were following your purpose, how did you feel? What was motivating you then? Recreating those feelings can help you get your resolve back. Make it a daily resolution that you are going to do one thing to move in the direction of your purpose or destiny.
Blessings- Coach Milton
We all like benefits , benefits in life breed joy, peace and well being. What are the benefits of living a healthy lifestyle? What are the benefits of good relationships or marriage? What are the benefits of living a life of purpose you may ask?
My list is not the end all of benefits, but this is a good list that should at least get you to start thinking more about discovering your calling or life purpose.
#1 Boost your health
People who have a clear purpose are healthier- taking the guess work out of life reduces anxiety, fear and doubt. All of which are known causes to bring risk to your health.
#2 Achieve your inspired goals faster
People with a clear purpose are more successful- this success is personalized, when you go to bed there is a peace the reigns over your sleep that you are going in the right direction.
#3 Make better decisions
Everything comes down to this one simple question, “Is this choice aligned with my purpose/calling in life?” This question and answer takes maturity and courage to be honest with yourself.
#4 Be Happier
Studies have shown that knowing your purpose makes you happier and more motivated. This is one place motivation is generated from, if you knew that being healthier was a gateway to opening up opportunities in life would you do it? Yes, because now you are motivated and happier because you have found purpose.
Allow me to encourage you to embrace the benefits and to walk down this journey of purpose for a fulfilling life.
For me there is nothing more rewarding when I feel and know I am inspiring others. Here is also a piece of wisdom I know there are others that have a strong desire to inspire others. I am not able to do it alone, with the amount of people that exist on planet earth, inspiration requires an army to handle the load.
The harvest is plentiful and the laborers are few.
A recent story of inspiration was that of a high school football player I coached, see my coaching philosophy is to give you the tools to win in the moment , but also the tools to win in life. This young man sent me a message recently that encourage me, it was a message thinking me for giving him what he needed in the moment and what he needed in life. This young man was messaging me as he was trying out and close to making the NFL playing for the San Francisco forty niners. You see, you never know what seeds you plant or what water you add to people lives and what fruit will produce. But, its not your responsibility to make the fruit grow, its only your responsibility to give the soil a seed or water to help it produce growth.
I want to share with you some simple keys on how you can inspire others:
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.