Learning how to express yourself in a healthy way can be a wonderful way to live an authentic, more fulfilling life. Practicing expressing yourself and being true to who you are is essential to becoming strong in believing in yourself, releasing emotions, and creating the life that you want, you must maximize this moment.
This is an issue I struggle with many days and at different times of my life. Some days or years I feel I am expressing myself fully and others I cannot quite locate Milton. The reason this is important to talk about is because the world needs you show up. When you show up or express yourself fully it literally gives others in your sphere the permian to express themselves fully.
Just to give you some practical ways to express yourself follow these guidelines as I do these often:
1. Listen you yourself-Self expression, which is the ability to communicate and demonstrate your feelings honestly, is an important factor in embarking on the journey of finding out who you really are. You can start finding who you are by listening to yourself, how you feel, and how you want to react to a situation. This can get you more in tune with your feelings and emotions, helping you begin to express yourself.
2. Acknowledge Your emotions-Emotions can be challenging and it can be hard for anyone to learn how to listen to and honor these feelings. You may also not know how to safely express your emotions. You may not have had a lot of experience in really tuning into to how you feel. It is common to stuff emotions away, to feel embarrassed or ashamed of emotions you may have, or hide your emotions completely.
3. Be willing to look foolish-This one here is not an easy one to embrace, but once you realize that we all make mistakes and we all fail down this step can free you emotionally and experience new dimensions of your fully expressed self.
4. Journal-Write down your journey of these new expressions, feelings, opportunities, failures and insights.
I hope this encourages you to take these steps to express yourself fully today.
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ~Steve Maraboli
I’ve noticed that things go much more smoothly when I give up control — when I allow them to happen instead of making them happen. Unfortunately, I’m terrible at this.
Although I’m much better than I used to be, I’m a bit of a control freak, at some level we all are. I often use perfectly good energy trying to plan, predict, and prevent things that I cannot possibly plan, predict, or prevent. For example, I wonder or worry if my son is going to get enough nutrition and rest during his high school years and sports or will I be liked by my peers at work, or will all the content I put out make a difference in someone’s life.
Like most humans I know, I spend a lot of time in business that’s not mine. The son’s business, my wife’s business, Mother Nature’s business, other people’s business.
As a forever recovering control personality, there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things:
As a forever recovering control personality, there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things:
1. We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t.
In other words, control is rooted in fear.
2. Control is also a result of being attached to a specific outcome—an outcome we’re sure is best for us, as if we always know what’s best.
When we trust that we’re okay no matter what circumstances come our way, we don’t need to micro-manage the God. We let go. And we open ourselves to all sorts of wonderful possibilities that aren’t there when we’re attached to one “right” path.
3. The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control.
I suspect it’s slightly different for everyone, but here’s what control mode looks and feels like for me: My vision gets very narrow and focused, my breath is shallow, adrenaline is pumping and my heart rate increases.
My mind shifts from topic to topic and from past to future very quickly, and I have little concentration, poor memory, and almost no present-moment awareness. And, I am all about maximizing the moment.
In surrender mode, I’m calm, peaceful. Breathing deeply, present in the moment. I see clearly and my vision extends out around me, allowing me to (literally) see the bigger picture.
So the great irony is that attempting to control things actually feels less in control. When I’m micro-managing and obsessing over details, I know I’m in my own way.
The Art of Surrender
Surrender literally means to stop fighting. Stop fighting with yourself. Stop fighting the universe and the natural flow of things. Stop resisting and pushing against reality.
Surrender = Complete acceptance of what is + Faith that all is well, even without my input.
It’s not about inaction. It’s about taking action from that place of surrender. Sometimes it’s as easy as noticing that you’re in control mode and choosing to let go—consciously and deliberately shifting into surrender energy mode.
I hope this helps you on your journey today,
Blessings -Coach Milton
Lately, I have been distracted a bit with scrolling time on social media with current state of affairs and on other things that it has started to really make me think. There are so many distractions in life, what can I do to change that?
Have you ever been getting so distracted by so many different things that it has caused you to waste a huge amount of time, and therefore, you have not been able to live in the moment like you would really like to.
We constantly have something on my mind, and I feel like we are not always enjoying the fun moments. This is because we always are thinking about other things and distracting ourselves with everything that happens in life.
Here is my go to when it comes to being in the moment. I think about loved ones I have lost period. They no longer have the moments we currently have. I don’t mean to be morbid, I just realize as I age that life is short and each day is important. Another thing is deep breaths always bring a focus to the minute and moment.
Let me speak on gratitude as well, as it is a link to the journey you could be experiencing those moments in life and most are really magical and impactful.
Bring your full attention to your breathe, bring full attention to life in your body, bring attention to the gratefulness that bounds and then you will experience life in the moment.
Hoping this releases you to enjoy this moment and this day.
Recently because of the work from home scenario for many people internet and WIFI has been a big deal. So big , that many people are subcribing to better internet if they can afford it. Or , many are using their smart phones as hotspots to tap into. Now, this blog isn’t about internet technology or WIFI comparisons or prices comparisons. Although any blog on those topics would be beneficial, it does lead me to a point.
There is much to learn and gather wisdom from all around us. Have you ever sat in a park or in an airport and looked around? Some consider it people watching , others consider it observations. I call a time God has presented to me to learn , gather and process new information. Which brings me back to my initial opening statement and title. Wiring is a huge part of how effective your transmission of communications is. Just look at the improvements of cell phone coverage now up to 5G. The same works with the wiring effectiveness of your home or residence.
I live in a 20 year old home, old to some and new to many. But, my family and I have never owned a land line, only cell phones. Now is this new age of technology and the having o work form home more, I needed to upgrade my internet service. And, after some time with the service I am noticing some of the deficiencies with have an all WIFI home. Number one all the devices that pull form the main modem and router, it isn’t enough. So, now I am working to figure out how to turn my phone jacks in each room into ethernet ports for different devices.
In my research I found out that there are different wirings for different purposes. A phone line and chord may contain a pair of wires, but many houses in the walls will carry up to four different wires. And the wires in the walls for phone connections are braided with four different colors and white wires. The reason for the braid of four different wires is so that the transmission of signal or communication doesn't get mixed up or lost. The other interesting thing is that the braided wires are not in all the same direction in order to reduce any signal confusion.
This new found understanding and wisdom blew my mind, why do I say that? In our lives I believe we have certain wiring for certain areas of our lives. At times, there can be two wires touching each other which needed to be braided in a different direction. You will know when signals get crossed by the confusion it cases you and others in your close relationships with or work and business. It sounds and feels like you are saying one thing and doing another. You will place more value on one thing over the other, which can cause pain and suffering for a short term gain. Each wiring needs to be color coded and braided in opposite directions of your life, so you can have clear communication, clarity of purpose for each part of your life and wholeness full of joy.
Allow your family have its own wires, allow your business or profession to have it’s own, your finances it’s own, your health its own. Give time to each one and if one needs to be focused on more than the others, make sure you set proper boundaries and protect the other wires the best you can. if you don’t you will experience a short circuit, and loss of communication which will lead to frustration and anger.
I hope this encourages you today as I was encouraged to think about this.
Blessings Coach Milton
Prepare for the worst, expect the best and then take what comes-
Maybe you feel stuck. Or bored. Or frustrated. It’s not that you don’t like the life you live, it’s just that you suspect there’s something more. Some greater sense of meaning or excitement. New connections. New adventures. New possibilities.
The truth is those possibilities are always within your reach. You may not be able to quit your job or develop new skills by osmosis, but every day contains within it countless opportunities, all dictated by the choices you make.
Some of those choices may seem inconsequential when you face them. They’re the little things, after all. Why not do it how you usually do? Why not stay in your comfort zone when it’s just so comfortable there?
Do it for the possibility. The possibility that if you make one minor change you may set the stage for major fulfillment and thus maximize the moment. Sometimes even the smallest shift in thinking or doing can create the biggest opportunity.
Here’s a list of 10 first steps on how to get started:
Step Out From Your Head
1. Challenge your beliefs about what you can and can’t do.
2. Challenge your ideas about how things should work.
3. Have a vision session
4. Look for opportunities in a tough situation.
5. Remove something from your life that doesn’t serve you
6. Commit to something you always say you’ll do but always fail to start
7. Turn your focus from something you don’t want to something you do want.
8. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones
9. Identify the blocks that keep you from breaking a bad habit.
10. Forgive someone if you’ve been holding a grudge.
I am forever an ally to your purpose and potential, please allow me if needed to support you one on one for your journey,
This may not be popular statement, but “this year has been a distraction for lots of people.” I mean come on you have the pandemic of Coronavirus, you have riots, protest, home school, quarantined life etc. So which leads me to my point.
Have you ever been so out of it , that you forget how to do the thing you had been or started doing? Your routine that you had the day that you got things going in 2020 and you started the new year were working out and then…bam! A distraction a major life change or what is currently happening in the world today.
It’s All A Distraction.I’m gonna give you one tip of what really helps me to get back or stay on track and re-engage myself when I was so distracted this year. I just wrapped up a training on consistency and this is what I was reminded of the step needed to take.
1. Reset your sights — keep them low for now, meaning when I got started with the new habit what did I do purposely to get started? Whatever was easiest, one would say what ever made me feel good.
So for instance if I was to work out and want to get in shape or healthy fit, the first thing I would do is make my mind to walk through the doors of the gym if able to, or walk around the block etc.. It wasn’t to work out for an hour or lift for an hour and a half or go to an aerobics class it was just basically can I walk in the door of the gym, literally pull my car into the parking lot, park then get out of my car and walk to the gym open door and step in.(Success)
What sometimes I think people do is forget that it’s a long term race. If you have to decide it’s something long-term that you’re committed to this thing over the long-haul, good! This is not that you’re trying to get something done in 21 days or 30 days or 60 days(short term goals are fine) like I’m gonna lose the 20 pounds but if you say to me you know what over the course of my lifetime it could take me a year, could take me two years to get there, could take me three years I’m committed to this thing long-term. Saying, “I made a decision back in January or back in March, February whatever it is I made a decision to make myself better to just do it. I need to make a priority my finances or family relationships or health or whatever it is you made a decision. I consider it a long-term decision so if you get the derailed or you get disrupted or you get knocked off your consistent effort.
So I encourage you take the guesswork out of your success and do the things that got you there in the first place, stick to the basics. Go back to the basics so when you’re derailed, that you lock into the consistent effort. It’s OK, listen it’s OK to make mistakes to get distracted, just jump back up and just get started again do the simplest task that’s right in front of you..
This is more than just rockin body although it is a great step to looking at ways to improve other areas in your life, but you need to get back up and move forward. It is time to re-establish your dreams and goals with this new normal. We need you to clear out the distractions and move forward.
God bless you maximizers and thanks for your attention-Coach Milton
We are creatures of habit and habitually we are accustomed to living with the knowledge that in the dark of night, dawn is just around the corner. Now, imagine a night that never ends. I have experienced a night like that, a night that even though the sun rises it is still dark.
These days and last few months have been full of darkness in our world, the sun has set and it feels like one of the longest nights ever. And if you agree with me let me know with a comment below. But, this isn’t the end of the story, and how do I know this? We are experiencing a brand new day!
With every new day whether experiencing the light or a feeling of darkness, there is hope. And hope doesn't disappoint! My heart goes out to those that are in a dark place today, been in a dark place or walking into one.
Can I encourage you because I too was in a dark place and over time, now I understand it is darkest before the dawn and I am reminded of this every morning. It want an easy process and there are days when the light is very dim, but I still rise and move forward.
The world needs you to rise up again and shake off the darkness because by you doing that automatically gives permision to others to rise up. There are still dreams and talents within you that need expression in our world.
Hope this brief write up encourages you to take one more step today.
I am battling with myself as of late fighting with thinking positive or being in a state of joy. I am the biggest fan of positive thinking, because I think and know of the alternative and that is to worry, be in fear, struggle with doubt and insecurities. We all fall victim to this mindset and it can become a cancer that only grows with every opportunity it is given. So, my philosophy is that I work and I work and I work to dilute the pollution that so easily clouds my mind and judgement.
One principle I live by is to assume positive intent , this of course comes by way of relationships, but it can be used with external circumstances that come against you not in your favor. Going to the thought that this is “happening for me , not against me!” Assuming positive intent is one of the toughest muscles I have been developing for some time, years! But, of late it is very difficult to assume what others intentions are by way of media and conversations. We do have the power to not judge but to be introspective and assume the best intent possible for myself and others. And, when the stent is made know ,then and only then should you take appropriate actions.
Getting to ground zero in your mind and emotions
Ground zero is the point in which you are clear and ready to absorb and produce the positive , happy life you envision and long for yourself and others. Here are a couple of insights on how to get to ground zero:
Embrace- Embrace what ever is troubling you, this is different than accepting it as it is. This is more allowing it to flow through and and experience it. What this does is brings down the resistance barrier, relieves stress and allows you to begin to think.
Tell it — This is simple, but you need to have trusted people in your life you can tell your anxieties, doubts and fears to and people who will help you see the broader picture.
Write it- Journaling, note taking, jotting down are keys to allowing your flesh and mind to be in harmony knowing this is what is going on and expressing it in a tangible way. Journaling allows you to take a step up in your personal and emotional growth as well. Because its a matter of time that another challenge will present itself in life.
I assure you when you follow this simple guideline, you will get you to ground zero and this will aid you on experiencing the joy and power of positive thinking.
I hope this blesses you today- coach Milton
This is one reason that Father’s day isnt just one day a year, but is celebrated and cherished every day of my life. We are all shaped good or bad by the experiences and people in our lives through out the years.
I am super grateful for my father, biological father has been a rock and leader and to this day I have much love and respect for him. Also, there are many other fathers that have come along in my life at different times, when the presence of my physical father was not around. And, to those men I stand and applaud you with a tear in my eye and chill in my skin and a full heart.
Coach Engle, Kevin, Todd, Bob, Myke, Tim, Wayne, and many others. Being a coach myslef afford me the opportuntiy to raise Sons not my own, to see the young man they will be in the next 5–10 years. I believe these men I name have thought the same of me. So this is why I say a father is celebrated mor than one day a year. Fathers are needed in every sector of society, especially when children I raised fatherless. This is a big issue in our country and family is the cornerstone of what makes our society and nations great. And to be spiritually minded it is God’s will that men be fathers to their children and to others that are lacking that guidance.
I have fully embraced coaching as a route to change lives and to better society and I take my hat off to those that do the same. We have many sons not our own and that has to be the motto. Sports are a microcosm of life and its our responsibility to complete the circle of humanity.
I am very passionate to not only raise my own children, but my heart goes out to those young men and women that need an example of what it takes to thrive as a man, father, husband for their future selves. Whats your calling in life, if it is to be a father to the fatherless like my Lord and savior then join the club.
Blessings to you and the “Fathers” out there today,
Do you really want to stick to a good healthy habit? Well you gotta listen to this because this has been proven in my life so many years that when I feel like I get off track, I just revert right back to it and make it as plain as possible.
The most recent habit that I am really proud of, is the one that I chose to make my health a priority. And making my health a priority there were a lot of things that I needed to change, well I wasn’t so off from my habits but there were some questionable habits in there. What am I saying, my habits were terrible!
So, the first thing was to find a way to start diluting the negative talk in my head. I needed to change my input quick and in a hurry. What I did was I reached out to a nutrition and fitness coach by the name of Jeffrey at Revolution fitness (Facebook, Instagram). What Jeffrey began to do was start to ask me really good questions, questions that I never really took the time to think about or maybe not even really wanted to answer.
What these questions the words made me to start thinking more concretely about my health and seriously why wasn’t I making myself a priority. Did I really want to live a long healthy life, do I really want to suffer from chronic pains as I got older, do I really want to be around for my grandchildren? These are questions and the input that I needed to start me on my journey and really come to an honest and open dialogue with myself and my wife.
These thoughts and answers to the questions that I had in my head and heart let me take action immediately. I began to journal and write down my goals every day and speak them out loud, I spoke to myself constantly about how proud I was even for the little that I did, or the major things I would do. I thought and spoke of this as a long-term project. Meaning years in the making (I’m in year two) I began to just get up and move.
I started off with walking them a fitness plan was delivered to me from my fitness coach to follow and a meal regiment. I was determined to just do and at one day at a time making each day a resolution to conquer my fears and thoughts and make myself a priority.
To keep myself accountable I would reach out to my coach once a week give him updates through myfitness pal tracking (an app) my macros and eating. Also, I would let him know my weight every week and I posted socially on Snapchat my first year each day whether I felt like it or not ( so others would see it)
To give you a formula of what I used here it is below:
Having and adopting a good and healthy habit lifestyle will lead you to more peace, more joy, more clarity, and more power in the moment.
Thank you for allowing me to encourage you today on your path and journey and helping you to maximize any given moment in your life for success.
Blessings Coach Milton
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.