I recall when I have my fights with thinking positive or being in a stat of joy. I am the biggest fan of positive thinking, because I think and know of the alternative and that is to worry, be in fear, struggle with doubt and insecurities. We all fall victim to this mindset and it can become a cancer that only grows with every opportunity. So, my philosophy is that I work and I work and I work to dilute the pollution that so easily clouds my mind and judgement.

One principle I live by is to assume positive intent , this of course comes by way of relationships, but it can be used with external circumstances that come against you not in your favor. Going to the thought that this is “happening for me , not against me!”

Getting to ground zero in your mind and emotions

Ground zero is the point in which you are clear and ready to absorb and produce the positive , happy life you envision and long for. Here are a couple of insights on how to get to ground zero:

Embrace- Embrace what ever is troubling you, this is different than accepting it as it is. This is more allowing it to flow through and and experience it. What this does is brings down the resistance barrier, relieves stress and allows you to begin to think.

Tell it — This is simple, but you need to have trusted people in your life you can tell your anxieties, doubts and fears to.

Write it- Journaling, note taking, jotting down are keys to allowing your flesh and mind to be in harmony knowing this is what is going on and expressing it in a tangible way.

I assure you when you follow this simple guideline, you will get you to ground zero and this will aid you on experiencing the joy and power of positive thinking.
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I hope this blesses you today- coach Milton

I think you’ll agree with me when I say:

The power of positive thinking is remarkable.

In fact, the idea that your mind can change your world almost seems too good to be true.
I can assure you, however, that I have experienced AND witnessed the good that focusing on the positive can bring.

But before I get into that, let me ask you a question.

Can you guess what the most successful and happy people think about all day long?

The answer is quite simple…

Healthy, happy people think about what they want, and how to get it, most of the time. In this way developing a positive attitude can truly change your entire life.

When you think and talk about what you want and how to get it, you feel happier and in greater control of your life. When you think about something that makes you happy, your brain actually releases endorphins, which give you a generalized feeling of well-being.

As a result, you develop a positive attitude.

How to Think Positive

Based on many psychological tests, happy people seem to have a special quality that enables them to live a better life than the average.

Can you guess what it is?

It’s the quality of optimism!  

The best news about optimism is that it is a learnable quality. That means you can learn how to think positive by taking adopting an optimistic mindset. I work to be optimistic even in the challenging of situations, because worry , doubt and fear need no fuel.

By the law of cause and effect, if you do and say what other healthy, happy people with positive attitudes do and say, you will soon feel the same way, get the same results, and enjoy the same experiences that they do.

Happy People Find Good in the World

Optimists seem to have different ways of dealing with the world that set them apart from the average.

1. First, they keep their minds on what they want, and keep looking for ways to get it. They are clear about goals and they are confident that they will accomplish them, sooner or later.
2. Second, optimists look for the good in every problem or difficulty. When things go wrong, as they often do, they say, “That’s good!”And then set about finding something positive about the situation.

What we know is that, if you are looking for something good or beneficialin a person or situation, you will alwaysfind it. And while you are looking, you will be a more positive and cheerful person.

The Power of Positive Thinking

Optimists seek the valuable lesson in every setback or reversal. Rather than getting upset and blaming someone else for what has happened, they take control over their emotions by saying, 

“What can I learn from this experience?”

Resolve today to learn how to develop positive thinking and a positive attitude toward yourself, the people around you and your life.

Blessings to you, 
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Coach Milton

In the daily shuffle, it can often seem like there is no time for joy! We wake up late, rush out the door to work barely getting a bite of breakfast, dash from meeting to meeting and come home too tired to do much more than watch some Netflix and flop exhausted into bed before waking up to do it all again. (And if you have kids, there are quite a few more steps in here as well!) In a life that feels like there’s no margin, how do you make space for joy?


Bathroom Time
Here is a quick way that I start the process of being In a state of joy. Use the time on the toilet not as a social media refresher, use it as a 3x3 time. Three minutes times three, gratitude, prayer, envision. If you don't get to a full three minutes don't worry, it's about the intent and making time for it in a simple way.




THINK SMALL
The first thing to remember is that what distinguishes joy is that it’s really small. Joy lives in moments. So rather feeling like you have to shoehorn another wellness practice into your already crowded morning routine, take the pressure off and remember that you don’t need a lot of extra space (or even any extra space) in your day to experience more joy.
One way that I find more joy is by focusing on the in-between moments. The practice of joyspotting, or intentionally looking for joy in your surroundings, is one way to do this. It’s a great practice for your commute or in between errands. Instead of burying my nose in my phone on my way to a meeting or to the airport, I try to gaze out the window and see what I notice.


TURN DOWNTIME INTO JOY-TIME
A little planning can help you turn odd slivers of time into joyful adventures. For example, if your working hours are flexible, why not time your commute to the sunset? If there’s a dog park in your neighborhood, can you adjust your route to swing by there so that you can see the pups play before you start your workday? I keep a list of “joy fieldtrip” destinations on my phone — stores, cafés, museums, galleries, murals, parks, etc. — along with their locations. Around you work or home are numerous things to bring you joy. Make it an effort and mark these locations. Put in your calendar time to visit once a week if possible to reflect and enjoy!


Hope this blesses you today-
Coach Milton

There is a huge desire by humanity to not live in their dreams but to live out their dreams. Today is an opportunity to take what is being shared as a guide, to hold tangibly in your hand what you see on the inside.

Follow these Four Keys:
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Create Goal Pictures
Create a photograph or picture of yourself with your goal, as if it were already completed. If one of your goals is to own a new car, take your cell phone to your local auto dealer and have a picture taken of yourself sitting behind the wheel of your dream car. If your goal is to visit Paris, find a picture or poster of the Eiffel Tower and cut out a picture of yourself and place it into the picture. There are also many digital platforms to create a vision board.

Create a Visual Picture and an Affirmation for Each Goal
I recommend that you find or create a picture of every aspect of your dream life. Create a picture or a visual representation for every goal you have — financial, career, recreation, new skills and abilities, things you want to purchase, and so on.

Write It Down
I practice a similar discipline every day. I have a list of about 10 goals I am currently working on. Every week a few days a week I will write out these goals and then close my eyes, see the completion of that goal in its perfect desired state for about 15 seconds, open my eyes and and find a way to take action towards that goal.

Use Affirmations to Support Your Visualization
An affirmation is a statement that evokes not only a picture, but the experience of already having what you want. Here’s an example of an affirmation:

I am happily vacationing 2 months out of the year in a tropical paradise, and working just four days a week owning my own business.

Repeating an affirmation several times a day keeps you focused on your goal, strengthens your motivation, and programs your subconscious by sending an order to your crew to do whatever it takes to make that goal happen.

Expect Results
Simple in it’s verbage, but takes courage to see past obstacles and delays. Use the process of you obtaining what you desire be the expectation journey.

I pray this blesses you- Coach Milton

You Can Literally Change Your Life By Changing Your ThinkingCan you really change your life just by thinking positive thoughts?
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Is this some sort of hippie feel-good stuff that has no concept of reality?
Unfortunately, that seems to be the attitude of a lot of people. The truth, though, is this:

“The mind is everything. What you think, you become.”
– The Buddha
And it’s not just “what” you think but “how” you think!




Why are positive thoughts so powerful?The power of positive thinking has a basis in physics. Sinceeverything is energyand everything has a specific vibration– and like attracts like — the quality of your thoughts can’t help but attract situations with similar vibrations.

You may argue that the vibrations of your environment and circumstances affect your own vibration.
And that’s true — but only if you allow them to.

See, the high vibrations of love and happiness have far more power than the low vibrations of fear and negativity.

But since the human condition seems to be one of “seeing is believing,” we allow the “obvious” (the negativity) to dominate our thoughts… and attract more of the same.
What we don’t do, for the most part, is raise our vibration through positive thinking to the point where “believing is seeing”. This is the point where your thoughts override the negativity around you, and begin influencing your circumstances.

Profound stuff, we know!

Being aware of your general line of thinkingLook at the people in your life, and then look at yourself as objectively as you can.

Do you (all or most people you know, including yourself) believe your lives are at the mercy of external influences like bosses, the economy, the government, jobs, family obligations, education, financial status, etc.?
Do you operate in a state of learned helplessness, believing “what’s the use, no matter how hard I try, nothing ever changes”?

Do you live for the weekend?
Do you see life as a struggle?
Do you find yourself blaming, complaining or condemning?
Are you generally unhappy?
If you said “yes” to any of these — even on some level — you’re not alone.
That’s what many of our lives are like.

We just don’t believe that our thoughts have the power to influence our physical reality.We don’t believe in our own power.

Accept and embrace your powerful nature and use that power for good always,
Coach Milton

Envisioning, or visualization, and the use of envisioning as a success tool, is not new. It’s been around for decades, but like many other fundamental business differentiators, it is primarily used by a small minority of entrepreneurs and business people. This is a shame, because when exercised correctly, it can help one achieve their goals not only in business, but in most other facets of their life.
One reason envisioning is not employed as often as it could be is that it’s difficult. Like most skills that can produce dramatic changes, it requires a solid base, constant maintenance, updates as necessary, and reflection to realize its success. Life and the daily distractions of our lives get in the way and planning something that may not occur for years or decades takes a back seat.
The concept of envisioningis deceivingly simple, considering the difficulty most people have in successfully implementing it. One must create a picture in their minds of what it is they want to achieve. This may be attaining a successful role in their chosen career; publishing a significant paper or book; building their dream home; starting and selling a company for $100M; or getting married and raising a family. After achieving this mental picture, one then sets out to achieve that goal, keeping in mind the picture so that when they attain the goal, they clearly realize they have achieved their specified goal and can file it away as a success, enjoy the increased confidence and beneficial feelings that rightfully come with that success, and move on to the next visualization with more confidence they can achieve their goals.
Follow these steps to successful envisioning.

1. Have a blank slate.If you think of creating a vision as creating a drawing on an etch-a-sketch (if you’re old enough to remember these…), you can’t create a clear vision unless you shake the etch-a-sketch so that it is blank. You have to be able to clear your mind to be able to create the clear vision. You can’t do this if you’re continually reacting to the outside world, filling your free time with banal stimuli such as television or video games, or dealing with negative influences in your life. So what to do? Get away. Go to someplace new. That doesn’t mean going to Tahiti and sitting on the beach for 6 months (unless you have the means and desire to do so), but could simply mean going to a quiet lunch by yourself at a new café, or after work driving to the beach or a park to sit quietly and think. Go for a run or a walk. Forget about all the things that require your immediate attention and just think. Don’t blast loud music in your headphones or read a book, just clear your mind so you can reflect and think. For some people, this can be very hard, and they will seek some stimulus to keep from thinking — avoid that temptation and just think. Get away from negative influences in your life, whether they are people, jobs, relationships, or situations. Life is far too short to let your visions be undermined by negativity.
2. Create your vision. Hold it in your mind. Write it out if that helps. Draw a picture of what success looks like. Picture your emotions as you enjoy that success. Make it as detailed as you can. Hold it in your mind as you drift off to sleep and think about it when you wake up. Then relax. Go back to your daily life then revisit your vision in a few days or weeks. With the passage of time, make modifications to it as you think you need to. At this stage of your vision, you’re best off by not sharing it with others as their feedback will influence your vision. It’s your vision, not someone else’s. People by nature will try to fit your vision into their perspective and will try to convince you to change it. When Apple launched the first iPad it was panned by critics who couldn’t envision this device ever replacing a laptop or being used by any but a few. Steve Jobs obviously didn’t consult them for advice when he was envisioning the iPad. At this stage, you need to create your vision on your own.
3. Create a path to your vision from where you are now.This is the critical step that separates a vision from a dream. You can create a vision of being the President of the USA, but if you never think about how you will get from being a waiter to that point it’s just a dream. Do you have the education and skills you need? The connections? The money? The physical skills? The mental skills or tenacity? If not, figure out how you can get those things. Talk to people that have done what you envision and ask them. Ask a lot of them, as they each may have a different set of experiences that you can borrow from. If you need to refine your vision, do so, but make sure you don’t give up on your vision under the pretext of refining it. The path you create may seem impossible, but if you break it down into doable steps you’ll find that even what seem like the most impossible visions can be achieved.
4. Execute on your path.Start the small steps you need to get there. Congratulate yourself on your progress for making those steps. When time passes and you haven’t made progress, don’t give up, just re-envision and motivate yourself to take those small steps. If you have done steps 2 and 3 correctly, you will find that you are taking both conscious and unconscious steps towards your vision and making choices that move you towards your vision rather than away from it. At this point you can start sharing your vision with others, but be careful of those who will seek to undermine your vision because it threatens their own self-confidence. 

Let me know if you have worked these tips-
Coach Milton



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How Your Beliefs Can Help You or Hurt You

In a fixed mindset students believe their basic abilities, their intelligence, their talents, are just fixed traits. They have a certain amount and that’s that, and then their goal becomes to look smart all the time and never look dumb. In a growth mindset students understand that their talents and abilities can be developed through effort, good teaching and persistence. They don’t necessarily think everyone’s the same or anyone can be Einstein, but they believe everyone can get smarter if they work at it.
 — Carol Dweck, Stanford University

The benefits of a growth mindset might seem obvious, but most of us are guilty of having a fixed mindset in certain situations. That can be dangerous because a fixed mindset can often prevent important skill development and growth, which could sabotage your health and happiness down the line.

For example, if you say, “I’m not a math person” then that belief acts as an easy excuse to avoid practicing math. The fixed mindset prevents you from failing in the short–run, but in the long–run it hinders your ability to learn, grow, and develop new skills.

Meanwhile, someone with a growth mindset would be willing to try math problems even if they failed at first. They see failure and setbacks as an indication that they should continue developing their skills rather than a signal that indicates, “This is something I’m not good at.”

As a result, people who have a growth mindset are more likely to maximize their potential. They tend to learn from criticism rather than ignoring it, to overcome challenges rather than avoiding them, and to find inspiration in the success of others rather than feeling threatened or inferior.

Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back?Dweck’s research raises an important question about the connection between what you believe and what you do.

If you believe things about yourself like…

• “It’s hard for me to lose weight.”
• “I’m not good with numbers.”
• “I’m not a natural athlete.”
• “I’m not creative.”
• “I’m a procrastinator.”

It’s pretty clear that those fixed mindsets will cause you to avoid experiences where you might feel like a failure. As a result, you don’t learn as much and it’s hard to get better.

What can you do about this? How can you change the things you believe about yourself, eliminate your fixed mindset, and actually achieve your goals?

How Your Actions Change Your BeliefsIn my experience, the only way I know to change the type of person that you believe that you are — to build a new and better identity for yourself — is to do so with small, repeated actions.

I have historically brought emotion to my motions of life. If I move in that direction and spark of creativity arises and gives me hope that I will “survive” and thrive.

Super important to not believe you need all the answers right away, just move confidently in that direction and believe the answers will come.
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Blessings today,
Coach Milton

The two keys to unlock your success
Getting what you want out of life can depend on several factors, but these two keys can not be ignored. In fact these two keys require only your effort and everything out of your control is just that, “out of your control.”
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Here are your two keys:

Gain and develop a mental picture. -

If your goals is to compete in a spartan race, envision your training regimen. Envision yourself performing during the event. Envision what you want the outcome to be. Gain or obtain a mental picture of your success. This takes effort, conscious effort. I compare this to building a brand new home, you need to dig in the soil to lay a foundation and most of this time this is where most of the work happens. Moving soil and obstacles that can hinder your process. When you have gained this mental picture and it is becoming clear what you are after, strengthen this by developing this. Develop a mental picture of what the win looks like and be able to articulate it well. Development is a constant effort over time, keeping this image in your mind daily is a win. The best athletes in the world are experts at this. If the goal is to build your company into the best place to work in your area, what does that look like? Who will be on the team? What will the culture feel like? What will competitors say about you? Develop the mental picture.

Work hard and persevere.-

As much as we may all like to believe it, achieving lofty goals takes a ton of hard work and perseverance. Having a vision is just the first step. Longterm planning benefits temporarily, but everyday action will win always. Success can be defined in many ways. But successful people have not been handed more opportunities than the rest of us. Hard work breeds opportunity. And then even more hard work is required to turn that opportunity into something great. Have vision, work hard and never be out of the fight.

I urge you use these keys today,

Coach Milton

I’ve always wanted to reach my full potential and abilities. Although I’ve had success, I don’t think that I’ve created super extraordinary levels of success quite yet, nor do I believe I have tapped into my full potential. Other people can judge me, but I know my true potential and whether I’m living up to it.
Don’t let anyone else judge your success. If you don’t consider it your duty — your obligation — to live up to your potential, then you will live a life far short of what you are capable of.

I want to tell you about four changes that can be made to reach your highest potential:


1. Write down your goals.
Youset these goals. Don’t let anybody else tell you what your goals should be. Think of success like breathing air; your last breath is important, but it’s your next breath that’s vital. Goals keep you focused on what’s next, and writing them down keeps you on track.
2. Choose things just out of reach.
Don’t just think about what is “realistic.” The problem with realistic thinking is that it’s usually based on what others think is possible. They don’t know your potential. Whenever you start a task with a mind toward the potential outcome, you will limit the actions required to accomplish that goal.
3. Take massive action.
Never do anything normal. Take massive action until one day it is no longer an unusual activity but a habit for you. People will ask you: “Why are you still out this late?” “What are you doing calling on a Saturday?” “You never quit, do you?” And even “What are you on?” Big goals require big actions. Reaching your full potential requires massive actions.
4. Stay persistent.
How do you get a nail in a wall? You hit it over and over and over. Rome wasn’t built in a day. The ability to persist on your path regardless of setbacks, unexpected events, bad news and resistance — to continue firmly in your purpose in spite of conditions — is a trait common to those who make it. Reaching your potential requires you to be persistent; there are no quitters here.
How much success have you accumulated in your life? Whatever level you have attained, you can do more. Never limit your potential success and never limit what you will do to create and keep that success. Have monster goals and attack them hard. Remember that people who are highly successful — in both their professional and personal lives — continue to work, produce and create long after they’ve flourished.
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When it comes to your career, never work for your quota; work to your potential.
When it comes to your career, never work for your quota; work to your potential. Working for your potential will keep you highly motivated. This also ties into your ethical obligation. You know what you’re capable of, not others. Quotas are numbers made up by others for you to hit. How did they come up with that quota? Don’t operate by what others think is possible.
Understand also that you will not reach your full potential without increasing your knowledge. You must train and invest in yourself to make yourself better. LeBron James is trying to reach his full potential as a basketball player because he trains daily. Anything you want to flourish in will require you to put in time and energy.
You also can’t reach your full potential holding on to where you are. Start writing your goals down each day. Choose things just out of reach. And take massive actions to hit them.

Let Us Define: You use potential to say that someone or something is capable of developing into the particular kind of person or thing mentioned. ... If you say that someone or something has potential, you mean that they have the necessary abilities or qualities to become successful or useful in the future.


Have you ever been told “you’ve got so much potential?” I have. Plenty of times. 


At first it feels like a compliment. It feels like there’s someone else that recognizes something in you that you can’t see in yourself.
It can feel nurturing and make you want to lift your game.


But there’s a downside because being told you have potential implies that you could be more than you are today.
You’re not as good as you could be. Not today anyway. Maybe tomorrow, but not today.


Being told you have potential can set up a lack of self-belief that sounds like this: “If I have so much potential, why is it that I’m not doing better? There must be something wrong with me, why is it o hard to tap into it?”


So, before you tell your kids, players or colleagues they have potential, ask yourself what you mean by the word potential. Instead of using such a vague term, get specific.  And be clear about what it is that you’re attempting to achieve.


Are you trying to highlight the gap between your expectations and their performance? If so, say something like this discouraging statement.


“John, your sales target was $100,000 for he month and you achieved $70,000. This isn’t acceptable. Why do you think you missed the target?”


Let me hear the boo’s on that one!


If you are trying to be encouraging? Mention something specific they’ve done well.


“John, I was listening to the way you handled the call to Mrs Jones. You showed a great deal of empathy and your use of questions resulted in a sales appointment. Well done.”


Are you trying to get them to improve their performance? Highlight one of their wins then ask them what they learned and how they could have done it even better.


“John, you wrote over your sale target last month. That’s a great result. Tell me, what do you think lead to this result? What will you do next month to build on that performance?”


Helping people in this way gets them to take ownership of their current reality. It then puts them in control of creating a roadmap for their own personal growth and success.


Food for thought - Coach Milton