If I may be honest , I have had my share of commitment issues. I recall dating my now wife still unsure of my self and the future of our relationship. It wasn’t till a day then girlfriend now my now wife gave me an ultimatum. It was at this time in my life where a boy had to become a man, “Man Up.”. I chose wisely, it was a time I needed some convincing of what I really wanted and we have been together for the last 20 plus years.
There are a lot of reasons why somebody might fear commitment. One reason is that the relationships a person hadin their past may have impactedthe ways they formed bonds down the line. If somebody committed to another person who didn’t respect them, who practiced avoidant relationship tactics, or who violated their trust, thenthe hurt caused by that previous relationship might inform the way that person approaches relationships now.
Regardless of what place the fear of commitment is manifesting from, there are concrete signs that can help you identify what’s going on internally.
Here are four reasons you may have commitment issues:
1. Letting go of the past has been an issue-
You have an anchor to unhealthy relationships and experiences in the past and it keeps you form moving forward.
2. Moving forward takes away possibilities and options
You like having options so you put off committing to someone because this paints you into a corner in which you have to examine yourself. This is selfish!
3. Simply you don’t know how to commit
There aren’t many examples or materials in your life that gives you a good foundation on how to commit. This is personal growth and development.
4. Uncertainties of what the future may hold, “man up”
This is the time you need to man or woman up. All of life is uncertain day to day, you can’t control the future and nor would you want to have that responsibility. This is why we call it life. L.I.F.E Learning Is ForEver.
Let this encourage you today,
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.