Comfort zone myth-


This post is going to to the point and is going to open your thinking up to a greater possibility.  That moment when I was 11 years old I saw the red and gold football team flash across my TV screen.  It was the magic of the NFL and the San Francisco 49ers.  Still am a fan today 30 years later.  


I caught a vision and sensation , I too wanted to run on the field in the red and gold and play a warriors sport.  This was my comfort zone, by definition :


com·fort zone
ˈkəmfərt zōn/
noun
noun: comfort zone; plural noun: comfort zones

1. a place or situation where one feels safe or at ease and without stress.

My stress in my current life I was living was relieved because I caught a vision, I went deeper with envisioning myself being a professional athlete, making an impact on and off the field.  Being looked up to and playing a sport I learned later , you could make a decent living doing.


You see it was a bubble that was created that I felt secure , confident and empowered in.  It was my comfort zone.  Now getting there was a different story.


My comfort zone was in my head and heart before I could realize in the physical dimension, every time I closed my eyes, got stressed, was disappointed this was my comfort zone.  The struggle, the challenge, the learning came with the process, and I wish at the age of 22 I cherished more of that process ,just as I do today at 42.


This on the outside is a reverse in psychology and thinking, because I have been told what a comfort zone is, but was never told what a comfort zone is not.  Until I analyzed it and look over my life , I have been working to get to my “comfort zone” all of my adult life.  and its been the learning, growing, stretching part that is the obstacles that try and keep me from my zone, but in essence builds me up to take on more of my comfort zone.


This is my opinion and thoughts as I share with you, to rethink what you know, or just think for a change in life. Get to your comfort zone, because what you think is comfortable is a disguise of stress, discomfort and or depression.


Thanks for your attention -Coach Milton

En·vi·sion
ənˈviZHən/
verb (Action word)- Imagine as a future possibility; visualize.

Athletes do it before the big game. Soldiers do it before stepping onto the battlefield. Visionary business leaders do it every day.

When we envision ourselves reaching goals of any kind, our brain starts finding ways to make it happen.

In no way do I mean to sound boastful, but in middle school I envisioned playing football in front of thousands of people and making my way to the NFL.  I did play college football in front of thousands of people and I was invited to the NFL combine.

As a an older teenager I envisioned being married to  woman that had all qualities I was looking for physically, mentally, emotionally.  I have now been married to that beautiful woman for nearly 18 years.

In middle school I envisioned traveling the country and working and helping others, I can now say that I get to travel the country often and experience new people and cultures and get to help others.

Envisioning a better life isn't going to be perfect, there have been many mistakes and failures along the way.
Whether your goals are related to business, health and fitness, family, hobbies or anything else, having a very detailed mental picture of the ultimate win is imperative for success.   I borrowed this mini-guide to making this work for your life if so you choose:

Select and prioritize your goals. Most of us have many goals we would like to achieve during various stages of our lives. Some are realized, and some are not. That's life. Prioritization and focus is critical for achieving goals.
Any business book will tell you not to have ten top goals each year. At most you want to have three or four major initiatives. Spreading yourself or your organization thin won't lead to success.
Gain and develop a mental picture. Develop a mental picture of what the win looks like and be able to articulate it well. If your goals is to compete in a spartan race, envision your training regimen. Envision yourself performing during the event. Envision what you want the outcome to be.
The best athletes in the world are experts at this.
If the goal is to build your company into the best place to work in your area, what does that look like? Who will be on the team? What will the culture feel like? What will competitors say about you? Develop the mental picture.
Work hard and persevere. As much as we may all like to believe it, achieving lofty goals takes a ton of hard work and perseverance. Having a vision is just the first step.
Success can be defined in many ways. But successful people have not been handed more opportunities than the rest of us.
Hard work breeds opportunity. And then even more hard work is required to turn that opportunity into something great.
Have vision, work hard and never be out of the fight.

Coach Milton

Who am I – This question deals with identity. The average human being has never answered the question, who am I? This is not what you do or did. Most people don’t know who they are, so they die as someone else.

I recall living a life that I thought I wanted, I eventually found out how unsettled and unclear I was.  The reason for this imbalance of emotion stemmed from that I really didn't know who I was.  I realized that I was living the life of someone else.  I borrowed an identity that wasn't mine only because I hadn't spent the time or invested the time to fully be aware of my strengths, talents and calling.  You see there are so many days left for us on this earth and we can pretend we have it together either to impress others, or we are too lazy to figure it out on our own.  

You have been given a great gift called life on earth and you were born at the perfect time.  You are alive at the best possible time in the history of the world.  Allow me to throw you another fastball, you are one of a kind.  Your DNA will never be reproduced in this lifetime or the next, you are unique and special in more ways than one.  

So here is my challenge if you can except that you are unique then can I challenge you to find out and be aware of who you are.  What gets you going?  What wakes you up internally and externally?  What could you see your self doing often and not think about time, food or money?  What is your oxygen?
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These questions are a starting point that only you can answer and it may take time, so be gracious with yourself, ask those you trust around you to give you some candid feedback to help you be aware of your strengths and also weaknesses. 

I want to encourage you give more to your cause first than to someone else's cause.  And if you find out that your identity is wrapped up in someone else's , break free ASAP.

Coach Milton