Ever come to a boulder 6 feet tall thats in reach of children? It is an automatic thing that they want to climb it or jump off of it without fail or fear. Life in everyday moments brings me lessons and the lesson I want to share with you is that of What is the ROCK of Your own Success?
“When it comes to style swim with the current, when it comes to principles stand like the rock.” Thomas Jefferson
The truth behind your success needs to be tried and tested like rock, that when the waves of disappointment or failure try to overtake you, you still stand. Success is not a temporary thing or a certain destination, the true meaning of success is a consistent day in and day out habit of discipline, integrity and love. What are the back to basics systems or process you can always lean on when things get shakey? Consider in your thinking these three keys to the ROCK of your Success:
1) Your Rock should be the beacon of hope that others see when they inquire about your success.
The main point of success is that others can see your transparent nature in your success, and what does that look like? It’s you being the same in your success and behind your success. Others know you are the same day in and day out.
2) Your Rock should be the thing you default to positively when challenges arise.
We all need anchors in our life, what is the solid rock you stand when it gets “rocky?” Good healthy habits that have sustained you when you get off course or when unexpected turns come up.
3) Your Rock should be able to support others on their journey as well, whether to get another perspective or a place to hang out until they can move.
Every ship is equipped with an anchor, and in life everyone should know when to drop the anchor and when to sail. At times your success and your behind the scene habits are anchors or light for others on their journey.
Remind yourself of your Rock when moving towards your success, don’t get to high and don’t get to low. Stay steady in your journey to greatness. Be the “Rock”
Children ask lots of questions, lots of why’s and can I’s. I noticed my son asking me a (can I) question, and before he got the first full word out, he interrupted himself to say, I know what you are going to say and walks away dejected and let down. I pressured him to tell me what he wanted and I used a new tactic, a new kind of No! And this can be applied to those you work with or any type of relationship.
These three words; Yes, Maybe and No bring a fluctuation of emotion pre question and post question, but you and I have the ability to empower others by how we respond to their needs.
As Leaders or Maximizers in our everyday lives we provide solutions not yet discovered or entertained and the better the solution the better chance of building lasting trust and open communication with others. As a parent I am tasked to provide a solution not yet discovered and empower my child, children and spouse on a consistent basis.
Why is this important? This is important in the process of moving relationships or purpose forward. When you can identify your purpose , you will need these tactics to stay on purpose and not let the word pull you off. Dialogue is key to communication and communication brings along with it trust. And people, love to do business with those they know , like and trust.
The 4th Option:
The new kind of No, I discovered that works well for me and there are others is ,
For me what I could see is that it validated my son and allowed me to be creative in how to meet his need /want by still setting boundaries as a parent.
Is this 100% proof, no way! But, I believe the word no by itself leaves out a pool of shared meaning that would allow for a lasting , deep, and rich relationship. And the effort could prove to be priceless for long term gain.
Be Creative this week,
Mario Fernandez said it best, “The Human spirit is nurtured by praise, as much as a seedling is nurtured by the soil, the water, and the sun.”
Imagine playing in a football game , packed to the rafters full of fans. The game starts and kick off happens, you are standing on the 2 yard. Line to receive the kick as the ball floats through the air. You catch the ball and your blockers are in front of you, you dodge one tackle then another, cut to your left and then sprint 98 yards. As you reach the goal line you dive into the end zone to make a statement. Just as you begin your celebration, you expect to hear the crowd roar and your teammates to surround you, but all you get is nothing. No crowd cheering, and as you watch your teammates they have casually walked to the sideline as if you did something wrong or nothing at all.
4 Keys of Recognition:
1. Make Recognition Authentic-
There is a fine line between too much recognition and not enough recognition. The seedling if given too much water will drown out, and too much sun will burn out. Follow your instinct as to how much and when you should give recognition. In the beginning more recognition is needed as the person grows , less is needed as they mature.
2. Make Recognition Personable-
The details of the cause for recognition is a connection to the heart, it means that you care. Being married almost 19 years, I know better to not just tell my wife she looks great, I must be specific or else! (Hahaha) Remember to be specific.
3. Make Recognition Public-
If at all possible, give recognition in public in front of others. People value being validated and made credible to others. Don’t make it awkward, just be sincere!
4. The Twist: Recognize yourself
Its possible to forget about the most important person to you and that is yourself. It is never wrong to recognize the good you do and the good in you on a consistent basis. Many times it takes others to help us turn this dial , but it is ultimately up to you to verbalize your recognition to yourself. Find the good, the truth of who you are , embrace all that cool things you have done and continue to do and pat yourself on the back.
“A kind word is worth its weight in gold and will outlast the moment it is given.”- Milton Herring
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.