“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ~Steve Maraboli I’ve noticed that things go much more smoothly when I give up control — when I allow them to happen instead of making them happen. Unfortunately, I’m terrible at this. Although I’m much better than I used to be, I’m a bit of a control freak, at some level we all are. I often use perfectly good energy trying to plan, predict, and prevent things that I cannot possibly plan, predict, or prevent. For example, I wonder or worry if my son is going to get enough nutrition and rest during his high school years and sports or will I be liked by my peers at work, or will all the content I put out make a difference in someone’s life. Like most humans I know, I spend a lot of time in business that’s not mine. The son’s business, my wife’s business, Mother Nature’s business, other people’s business. As a forever recovering control personality, there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things: As a forever recovering control personality, there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things: 1. We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t. In other words, control is rooted in fear. 2. Control is also a result of being attached to a specific outcome—an outcome we’re sure is best for us, as if we always know what’s best. When we trust that we’re okay no matter what circumstances come our way, we don’t need to micro-manage the God. We let go. And we open ourselves to all sorts of wonderful possibilities that aren’t there when we’re attached to one “right” path. 3. The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control. I suspect it’s slightly different for everyone, but here’s what control mode looks and feels like for me: My vision gets very narrow and focused, my breath is shallow, adrenaline is pumping and my heart rate increases. My mind shifts from topic to topic and from past to future very quickly, and I have little concentration, poor memory, and almost no present-moment awareness. And, I am all about maximizing the moment. In surrender mode, I’m calm, peaceful. Breathing deeply, present in the moment. I see clearly and my vision extends out around me, allowing me to (literally) see the bigger picture. So the great irony is that attempting to control things actually feels less in control. When I’m micro-managing and obsessing over details, I know I’m in my own way. The Art of Surrender Surrender literally means to stop fighting. Stop fighting with yourself. Stop fighting the universe and the natural flow of things. Stop resisting and pushing against reality. Surrender = Complete acceptance of what is + Faith that all is well, even without my input. It’s not about inaction. It’s about taking action from that place of surrender. Sometimes it’s as easy as noticing that you’re in control mode and choosing to let go—consciously and deliberately shifting into surrender energy mode. I hope this helps you on your journey today, Blessings -Coach Milton Comments are closed.
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