The Myth of Monday’s
I used to treat a Monday with disgust and pain. Sunday afternoon was the time where the pit of my stomach became upset and nauseated. Have you ever heard the phrase:
“Sunday evening blues Monday morning blahs”That used to be my mindset and attitude until one day. One morning the sun showed through my hospital blinds and beamed on my face. I vividly recall this morning because the previous week’s were full of pain, uncertainty , doubt about my health and life. I was literally hanging in the balance of life and death for a couple of months.
I had received a knee surgery that ended up causing me to have a staph infection in my knee that lead to the other parts of my body. Rapid weight loss and an emergency surgery to remove the infected ligament after it sat in my body for two months. Lots of specialist and experimental drug treatment and a stroke to the right side of my body, I knew I was done for.
But then and since I am a man of prayer and Faith I would say , “But God!”. There was a different path and purpose for my life that 20 years later I stand here becoming healthier than ever , raised and raising children, married for 17 years and so much more.
This is the part where I hope you see that my perspective on Mondays changed drastically. It’s amazing how a life threatening incident can change your whole life and hopefully for many for good.
You may have or may not have experienced a life threatening situation, but you don’t have to to know that life is precious and a gift. To remind yourself that you are a gift to the world.
Let your Monday be a difference maker for your work or life week.
I have a cute niece that when she was between 1 and 2 would almost everyday put her gel shoes on the wrong feet. It was the most odd thing and no matter how much we would try to help her change and put the shoes on the right feet. It didn't matter to this cute little girl because , she was living her life the way she wanted to.
How can you or I maximize the moment and no matter what is normal or supposed to be correct , what if we just put our shoes on the wrong feet? What if we could explore new avenues, new ideas a sense of fresh creativity? And when others try and tell you to do it differently, we listen acknowledge and continue with our plan of being unique and having just plain simple fun.
There is a beautiful perspective that comes when you realize how much the world is made up of others unique like yourself who chose to put shoes on the wrong feet, and fought the path of the world. This is where enterprises and industries are built and foundations are laid.
Be different and play with your shoes on the wrong feet,
During any football game in which I specialized in for quite sometime, I've seen many players that carry the football or when chasing down a play or blocking for the next touchdown, get thrown off. I mean you are focused on a course of action and "wham" someone knocks you off balance or throws you off course.
I sense that this happens to many people when just living life, it could be your marriage, your children, your health, your finances, you chose the topic. But, what do you do? Many people, not talking about you?! Some give up, some play the blame game, others throw in the towel, or some find the will to fight past the obstacle and refocus towards a greater goal.
One thing I can share with you, is that if you get thrown off course and I have experienced this times in my life don't get discouraged. I believe the being thrown off course can be a positive if you see it that way. Think about this when you are thrown off course you have a chance to look round at what happened , it allows you to asses the situation and make a better choice. But here is the kicker, you can not wait or wallow in your current state often. Quickly ask the question , "what do I need to learn and where do I go from here?" Good questions call upon good responses.
Allow me to encourage you and be resilient in your dealings , especially when things seem rosy and now there is a strong smell of ashes. Be the Phoenix and rise out of the ashes to greatness.
“Jesika, you are so strange.” – Grandma
When your own grandmother looks at you a couple of times a week in bewilderment and tells you how strange you are—you really know you’re living an authentic life. To be clear, my grandma hasn’t always called me strange, she actually used to think I was normal. One day she switched to calling me this endearing sentiment because suddenly one day I knew I could be more successful and happy in my career and my life by being strange.
Our world is competitive. One thing that’s hard to argue against, is that in a competitive word, those who are unique and are who they were designed to be, are the ones who really set themselves apart. I don’t need to give you an example of the people I’m talking about, because likely whoever just popped into your head, is as strange as it gets.
I’m a 26-year-old female who graduated from Westminster with a marketing degree with curly blonde hair, freckles, and I work in sales. What makes me strange? I don’t hide the things about myself that make me who I am as a unique individual. I very much so used to act in a way I thought I was supposed to and mimicked those around me because I thought that is what would bring me success. The day I changed that is the day I was genuinely happy and far more successful in my career.
I could rattle off a list of what makes me strange (trust me, my grandma points out something new all the time), but the point is, all of those wonderfully weird things about you—be proud of them! Is my desk fully decorated with Ryan Gosling, a picture of a pig in a crown that says overdress your way to the top and a vase with flowers I buy myself each week? Absolutely. Was I known as the girl who loves old people in college? Check. Do I actually admit out loud to my co-workers that I watch baseball because I love to watch people chew gum? Heck YES I do. It adds color to who I am. My clients appreciate what makes me unique because it makes our business relationship authentic. It makes it genuine. The same goes for the relationships with my family and friends.
My point is, strange our not, celebrate those things that define you. Although small, those things are what give you an edge in this competitive world. Be authentic while everyone else is figuring out how to be like the person next to them. So write your list of what makes you strange, OWN THOSE THINGS, and remember they’re what make you so great.
Now I’ll leave you with a quote from a fiercely unapologetic person you may know:
If you’re lucky enough to be different—don’t ever change.
– Taylor Swift
How do you define success? Not the worlds definition, or the definition others place on you, but how do you define success within yourself? Is it with your children, Is it with the savings account, how about your health. Whatever it may be, however you define success, however you put the blinders on, define it for yourself, you need to have some alignment. Alignment has to be involved. You say, how do you do that?
Well think about it. Even if it’s what your savings account, you need to have a savings account. I know thats elementary, but a great start. Be in alignment with the bank. How about aligning yourself with an expert on the topic of savings accounts and the different type of ways to save. You can’t follow a coach or mentor without being in alignment with him, be in harmony, being one with him/her. Why would you want to listen to me if you don’t think that I am in alignment with you? I am, I want to be in alignment with you, because I know what I have to bring in these messages, and understanding what success requires.
Align with the path less chosen,
Have you even tried to do something great in life by yourself? You can’t. Like anyone that you may be aspired to be like, or did you see a success on a platform or whatever it may be, no one ever got there by themselves. Even the greatest person I believe alive today or alive that existed on this Earth 2000 years ago. And Jesus he had to have unity with other people, that had to be something that he brought together to help himself propel his message, propel the truth. He needed that guy Paul, or He needed that guy John or He needed that guy Peter – He needed those disciples to help him with his message and to give the truth out. Just like you are going to need that, when you talk about maximizing your moments to bring about the vision for your life, whether it’s health or relationships or whatever it may be, you are going to have to be in unity with other people to make it. And unity is needed for success. It really is.
Enlisting great people has to be nurtured by your compassion for their vision as well. We all have visions for ourselves, and if you can match their vision within your greater vision you will have life, vitality and momentum.
Be a Leader!
Risk. Your purpose driven life is going to demand it.
We are talking about purpose, we are talking about dreams, we are talking about destiny
and a lot of cool things that life is all about. And life is so short. One of the real things about
life is it really is a vapor. Its a mist, you know, compared to the bigger picture of life and I believe that there is eternity that will be part of and in this life on earth is so short. I've been to many funerals over the last couple of years and in understanding that life is really, really short and now is the time to live your purpose, to be on purpose and to live your dream. Your purpose driven life is going to demand risk.
I can’t really see any other opportunity or way that your purpose in life is not going to demand you
to jump outside of your comfort zone! I believe there’s risk involved every single day and we
choose to live in our comfort zone or we can choose to expand our comfort zone to include risk. How does that relate to your dream, how does it relate to everything you have going on in life and I guarantee you this, every step that you and I take - every single step, every single moment, every single day we will face risk and it's well worth it. I really want to encourage you to really maximizes the moments and face risk as opportunities not defeats.
"You have the ability, you have the power to forgive. Exercise it. It’s in your ability, in your power. Maximize that moment, forgive that person, so you can live a life worthy of a calling, worthy of your purpose, to live a great life."
You have been given great power to direct much of your life, whether its with forgiveness, wealth, health, or elite relationships. Your creator God placed inside of you the ability to be guided, instructed and comforted at every corner.
Much of society blames external forces or people for their short comings or failures. There is a disease that is running rampant in our world , where responsibility for your own actions is not the majority but the minority.
80% of Americans are in the self pity mode and not in the business of exercising the tremendous power and gift they have. Allow me to introduce you to the power inside of you to unleash major change and transformation in your life and others positively.
Be the channel to impact change for good , not the catalyst to perpetuate destruction. Unleash your Power!
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.