There are many reasons why people fail to accomplish their dreams, and it's important to understand these challenges in order to overcome them. Here are a few common reasons why people may struggle to achieve their goals:
Only You Can Do It...
We are three months from a new year and some are thinking thank goodness after what 2020 has presented us as a nation and world. But for some it has been one of the best years. I say this not to make some feel bad or like they lack anything, I truly believe people were born for such a time as this.
Think about this concept of being in time for a reason, it seems like it could be a bit out there but hear me out and you don’t subscribe to this thinking and philosophy it is ok. Since the beginning of time things, people, events were meant to happen when they happened. The thinking that things happen for a reason is true. So I say this with boldness you happened for a reason and the only person that can get it done, whatever it is your were designed or gifted for.
Three reason only you can do that:
Understand in this shot write up that you are the only you and my hope is that you won’t go to the grave not attempting or finishing doing what only you can do.
What Do You Value?
We see this definition of Value as this: the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something. There are many things to value in life , but what is the value you place on your freedom , your core values, your life? This is the question that needs to be asked one on one in a mirror with a clear mind.
When I was playing high school football and before then I valued playing professional football as a path to a dream I had in life. I recall when I had injured my left knee paying this sport I love, the doctor told me I would never play again because I had to have surgery. This surgery was a serious surgery, one that needed my knee to be reconstructed with pins. Feeling devastated, the plan to recover ws layer out before me, but in my mind and hear I said I will play again. This will not stop me!
I give you this story to share my emotion and passion behind the question of, what do you value? Having values is the biggest thing I can stress for a successful life , a legacy to leave behind. Not only are your values a mirror you present yourself everyday, but what you value should be a meter as to the impact you give to those things each day.
“Values are like fingerprints, nobody are the same, but you leave all over everything you do”
What you touch and do should be guided by what you value, the things , the people , the projects all of it. Ill add this even your alone time should you take it. I value my relationships with family , friends, and my God. These are the things that guide me daily and when they are out of balance I quickly move to make sure the things get back on track.
To finish my childhood football story in response to my knee , I leave you with this I did rehab and recover , I did play college football and I did get invite to the NFL Combine. I tell you this because , when you truly identify what you value, you will do al you can to make sure that it remains a focus in everyday life.
Hoping this encourages you on your journey,
A Changed Attitude, Gives You A Great Reward
One of the biggest things I talk about often with my children and even more now with my youngest as he grows into a young man is attitude. It all comes down to the controllables , what can we control, what can I control? Also the other controllable is effort and character. I like the excerpt from the book, “Thinking for a Change” by John Maxwell. Here is what John quotes as the definition of attitude:
What is attitude? I believe…
It is the “advance man” of our true selves. Its roots are inward but its fruit is outward.
It is our best friend or our worst enemy.
It is more honest and more consistent than our words.
It is an outward look based on past experiences.
It is a thing which draws people to us or repels them.
It is never content until is is expressed.
It is the librarian of our past.
It is the speaker of our present.
It is the prophet of our future.
Living with this in mind that an attitude of the better part of yourself changes the behavior which ultimately changes your environment. This message is for the old and the young, we all have a daily work to do a be aware of our attitude in any given moment, because if you can recognize the emotion or feeling or thoughts you will be well on your y to maximize any given moment of your life towards success. I hope this encourages you today mazimizers.
Blessings- Coach Milton
Learning how to express yourself in a healthy way can be a wonderful way to live an authentic, more fulfilling life. Practicing expressing yourself and being true to who you are is essential to becoming strong in believing in yourself, releasing emotions, and creating the life that you want, you must maximize this moment.
This is an issue I struggle with many days and at different times of my life. Some days or years I feel I am expressing myself fully and others I cannot quite locate Milton. The reason this is important to talk about is because the world needs you show up. When you show up or express yourself fully it literally gives others in your sphere the permian to express themselves fully.
Just to give you some practical ways to express yourself follow these guidelines as I do these often:
1. Listen you yourself-Self expression, which is the ability to communicate and demonstrate your feelings honestly, is an important factor in embarking on the journey of finding out who you really are. You can start finding who you are by listening to yourself, how you feel, and how you want to react to a situation. This can get you more in tune with your feelings and emotions, helping you begin to express yourself.
2. Acknowledge Your emotions-Emotions can be challenging and it can be hard for anyone to learn how to listen to and honor these feelings. You may also not know how to safely express your emotions. You may not have had a lot of experience in really tuning into to how you feel. It is common to stuff emotions away, to feel embarrassed or ashamed of emotions you may have, or hide your emotions completely.
3. Be willing to look foolish-This one here is not an easy one to embrace, but once you realize that we all make mistakes and we all fail down this step can free you emotionally and experience new dimensions of your fully expressed self.
4. Journal-Write down your journey of these new expressions, feelings, opportunities, failures and insights.
I hope this encourages you to take these steps to express yourself fully today.
You Were Never In Control Anyway
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ~Steve Maraboli
I’ve noticed that things go much more smoothly when I give up control — when I allow them to happen instead of making them happen. Unfortunately, I’m terrible at this.
Although I’m much better than I used to be, I’m a bit of a control freak, at some level we all are. I often use perfectly good energy trying to plan, predict, and prevent things that I cannot possibly plan, predict, or prevent. For example, I wonder or worry if my son is going to get enough nutrition and rest during his high school years and sports or will I be liked by my peers at work, or will all the content I put out make a difference in someone’s life.
Like most humans I know, I spend a lot of time in business that’s not mine. The son’s business, my wife’s business, Mother Nature’s business, other people’s business.
As a forever recovering control personality, there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things:
As a forever recovering control personality, there are three things I know for sure about trying to control things:
1. We try to control things because of what we think will happen if we don’t.
In other words, control is rooted in fear.
2. Control is also a result of being attached to a specific outcome—an outcome we’re sure is best for us, as if we always know what’s best.
When we trust that we’re okay no matter what circumstances come our way, we don’t need to micro-manage the God. We let go. And we open ourselves to all sorts of wonderful possibilities that aren’t there when we’re attached to one “right” path.
3. The energy of surrender accomplishes much more than the energy of control.
I suspect it’s slightly different for everyone, but here’s what control mode looks and feels like for me: My vision gets very narrow and focused, my breath is shallow, adrenaline is pumping and my heart rate increases.
My mind shifts from topic to topic and from past to future very quickly, and I have little concentration, poor memory, and almost no present-moment awareness. And, I am all about maximizing the moment.
In surrender mode, I’m calm, peaceful. Breathing deeply, present in the moment. I see clearly and my vision extends out around me, allowing me to (literally) see the bigger picture.
So the great irony is that attempting to control things actually feels less in control. When I’m micro-managing and obsessing over details, I know I’m in my own way.
The Art of Surrender
Surrender literally means to stop fighting. Stop fighting with yourself. Stop fighting the universe and the natural flow of things. Stop resisting and pushing against reality.
Surrender = Complete acceptance of what is + Faith that all is well, even without my input.
It’s not about inaction. It’s about taking action from that place of surrender. Sometimes it’s as easy as noticing that you’re in control mode and choosing to let go—consciously and deliberately shifting into surrender energy mode.
I hope this helps you on your journey today,
Blessings -Coach Milton
The Real Quest To Be More In The Moment
Lately, I have been distracted a bit with scrolling time on social media with current state of affairs and on other things that it has started to really make me think. There are so many distractions in life, what can I do to change that?
Have you ever been getting so distracted by so many different things that it has caused you to waste a huge amount of time, and therefore, you have not been able to live in the moment like you would really like to.
We constantly have something on my mind, and I feel like we are not always enjoying the fun moments. This is because we always are thinking about other things and distracting ourselves with everything that happens in life.
Here is my go to when it comes to being in the moment. I think about loved ones I have lost period. They no longer have the moments we currently have. I don’t mean to be morbid, I just realize as I age that life is short and each day is important. Another thing is deep breaths always bring a focus to the minute and moment.
Let me speak on gratitude as well, as it is a link to the journey you could be experiencing those moments in life and most are really magical and impactful.
Bring your full attention to your breathe, bring full attention to life in your body, bring attention to the gratefulness that bounds and then you will experience life in the moment.
Hoping this releases you to enjoy this moment and this day.
Braid The Wiring Differently
Recently because of the work from home scenario for many people internet and WIFI has been a big deal. So big , that many people are subcribing to better internet if they can afford it. Or , many are using their smart phones as hotspots to tap into. Now, this blog isn’t about internet technology or WIFI comparisons or prices comparisons. Although any blog on those topics would be beneficial, it does lead me to a point.
There is much to learn and gather wisdom from all around us. Have you ever sat in a park or in an airport and looked around? Some consider it people watching , others consider it observations. I call a time God has presented to me to learn , gather and process new information. Which brings me back to my initial opening statement and title. Wiring is a huge part of how effective your transmission of communications is. Just look at the improvements of cell phone coverage now up to 5G. The same works with the wiring effectiveness of your home or residence.
I live in a 20 year old home, old to some and new to many. But, my family and I have never owned a land line, only cell phones. Now is this new age of technology and the having o work form home more, I needed to upgrade my internet service. And, after some time with the service I am noticing some of the deficiencies with have an all WIFI home. Number one all the devices that pull form the main modem and router, it isn’t enough. So, now I am working to figure out how to turn my phone jacks in each room into ethernet ports for different devices.
In my research I found out that there are different wirings for different purposes. A phone line and chord may contain a pair of wires, but many houses in the walls will carry up to four different wires. And the wires in the walls for phone connections are braided with four different colors and white wires. The reason for the braid of four different wires is so that the transmission of signal or communication doesn't get mixed up or lost. The other interesting thing is that the braided wires are not in all the same direction in order to reduce any signal confusion.
This new found understanding and wisdom blew my mind, why do I say that? In our lives I believe we have certain wiring for certain areas of our lives. At times, there can be two wires touching each other which needed to be braided in a different direction. You will know when signals get crossed by the confusion it cases you and others in your close relationships with or work and business. It sounds and feels like you are saying one thing and doing another. You will place more value on one thing over the other, which can cause pain and suffering for a short term gain. Each wiring needs to be color coded and braided in opposite directions of your life, so you can have clear communication, clarity of purpose for each part of your life and wholeness full of joy.
Allow your family have its own wires, allow your business or profession to have it’s own, your finances it’s own, your health its own. Give time to each one and if one needs to be focused on more than the others, make sure you set proper boundaries and protect the other wires the best you can. if you don’t you will experience a short circuit, and loss of communication which will lead to frustration and anger.
I hope this encourages you today as I was encouraged to think about this.
Blessings Coach Milton
How I Stepped Out Of My Own Head
Prepare for the worst, expect the best and then take what comes-
Maybe you feel stuck. Or bored. Or frustrated. It’s not that you don’t like the life you live, it’s just that you suspect there’s something more. Some greater sense of meaning or excitement. New connections. New adventures. New possibilities.
The truth is those possibilities are always within your reach. You may not be able to quit your job or develop new skills by osmosis, but every day contains within it countless opportunities, all dictated by the choices you make.
Some of those choices may seem inconsequential when you face them. They’re the little things, after all. Why not do it how you usually do? Why not stay in your comfort zone when it’s just so comfortable there?
Do it for the possibility. The possibility that if you make one minor change you may set the stage for major fulfillment and thus maximize the moment. Sometimes even the smallest shift in thinking or doing can create the biggest opportunity.
Here’s a list of 10 first steps on how to get started:
Step Out From Your Head
1. Challenge your beliefs about what you can and can’t do.
2. Challenge your ideas about how things should work.
3. Have a vision session
4. Look for opportunities in a tough situation.
5. Remove something from your life that doesn’t serve you
6. Commit to something you always say you’ll do but always fail to start
7. Turn your focus from something you don’t want to something you do want.
8. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones
9. Identify the blocks that keep you from breaking a bad habit.
10. Forgive someone if you’ve been holding a grudge.
I am forever an ally to your purpose and potential, please allow me if needed to support you one on one for your journey,
It's All A Distraction?!
This may not be popular statement, but “this year has been a distraction for lots of people.” I mean come on you have the pandemic of Coronavirus, you have riots, protest, home school, quarantined life etc. So which leads me to my point.
Have you ever been so out of it , that you forget how to do the thing you had been or started doing? Your routine that you had the day that you got things going in 2020 and you started the new year were working out and then…bam! A distraction a major life change or what is currently happening in the world today.
It’s All A Distraction.I’m gonna give you one tip of what really helps me to get back or stay on track and re-engage myself when I was so distracted this year. I just wrapped up a training on consistency and this is what I was reminded of the step needed to take.
1. Reset your sights — keep them low for now, meaning when I got started with the new habit what did I do purposely to get started? Whatever was easiest, one would say what ever made me feel good.
So for instance if I was to work out and want to get in shape or healthy fit, the first thing I would do is make my mind to walk through the doors of the gym if able to, or walk around the block etc.. It wasn’t to work out for an hour or lift for an hour and a half or go to an aerobics class it was just basically can I walk in the door of the gym, literally pull my car into the parking lot, park then get out of my car and walk to the gym open door and step in.(Success)
What sometimes I think people do is forget that it’s a long term race. If you have to decide it’s something long-term that you’re committed to this thing over the long-haul, good! This is not that you’re trying to get something done in 21 days or 30 days or 60 days(short term goals are fine) like I’m gonna lose the 20 pounds but if you say to me you know what over the course of my lifetime it could take me a year, could take me two years to get there, could take me three years I’m committed to this thing long-term. Saying, “I made a decision back in January or back in March, February whatever it is I made a decision to make myself better to just do it. I need to make a priority my finances or family relationships or health or whatever it is you made a decision. I consider it a long-term decision so if you get the derailed or you get disrupted or you get knocked off your consistent effort.
So I encourage you take the guesswork out of your success and do the things that got you there in the first place, stick to the basics. Go back to the basics so when you’re derailed, that you lock into the consistent effort. It’s OK, listen it’s OK to make mistakes to get distracted, just jump back up and just get started again do the simplest task that’s right in front of you..
This is more than just rockin body although it is a great step to looking at ways to improve other areas in your life, but you need to get back up and move forward. It is time to re-establish your dreams and goals with this new normal. We need you to clear out the distractions and move forward.
God bless you maximizers and thanks for your attention-Coach Milton
Milton is genuine, persistent, and sincere. There are very few things that detract Milton from his pursuit of what he believes in. His attitude is fantastic and professionalism top notch. -
International speaker, creator of Maximizing Moments with Milton and the Author of Your Purpose, Your App -How to Stop Drifting and Start Living.